Who’s That Girl?


It’s been a tumultuous six months on the Internet, hasn’t it? The U.S. elections and the fall-out from them have dominated FB, Twitter, and a whole lot of dinner table discussions. Some people are really sick of it, others are just getting started. Some don’t care at all, others have become virtually obsessed. And many, if not most, authors have had to decide exactly how they will handle this whole thing of being a “public” figure along with being a real person.

So, I thought maybe it’s time for me to make it official, tell you what you can expect from me, and then you can take it from there.

Hi. I’m Selena Laurence (not my real surname, just in case you wondered about that as well), and I write sexy romance novels. I’m also a stepmother to two kids in their twenties, and a mother to two teens. I’ve been married for twenty years, I’ve worked in government and consulting firms as a technical writer, and I’ve been writing romance fiction for about five years now.

I’m also a strong supporter of human rights. That means women’s rights, LGBTQ rights, the rights of people of all religions, ethnicities, and races. I believe that humans are humans, love is love, and we should all treat each other with civility.

So, how does that impact those of you who read my books and interact with me on social media? It’s like this:
On my FB profile page (Selena Laurence) I post all sorts of things — sales I have on my books, random thoughts that roll through my head (and it’s a mess in there, so watch out), stuff I think is funny or cute, and things that involve human rights–like the fact that I was in the Women’s March in Denver yesterday. It was awesome, I had pictures, and videos, and I was super proud of nearly 200,000 of my fellow Coloradoans for marching peacefully to support equal rights for all human beings.

On my “fan” page (http://www.facebook.com/SelenaLaurenceRomanceAuthor) you’ll see mostly book stuff, cute animal stuff, and things that made me laugh, along with a weekly giveaway (pinned to the top of the page every Monday, check it out!). Occasionally you’ll see something like a video I posted yesterday about the marches around the country with a simple question: Did you participate in a march today? Because it’s fun to see people’s answers, and I like to hear about things my readers are doing.

There’s a lot of debate about whether authors should allow anything “personal” to enter their social media. Some say readers only want to see pictures of hot guys and cute puppies. Others say that they let it all hang out because that’s part of their brand. I fall somewhere in the middle. I don’t need to give you my view on every polarizing political issue that’s out there, and I completely respect your right to whatever you believe or whoever you believe, but I stand firm on human rights, and this is why:

I’m a romance writer. I’m all about the love, and I truly feel that when we do things with love and for love, we become a better world for it. It’s just that simple. My books advocate people being loving, my life does too. It’s who I strive to be.

From what I’ve seen, the majority of my readers agree with me. And I appreciate that, and I adore you even more for it. Romance readers are some of the most tolerant and people I’ve met anywhere.

If however, hearing me talk about something like the Women’s March makes you uncomfortable, let me suggest two things: Join my reader group on FB (https://www.facebook.com/groups/180909955632263/) where we talk about cute guys, crock pot recipes, and what books I’m giving away this week. Seriously, it’s all fun and games over there, and I love it! The other option is to subscribe to my newsletter (http://bit.ly/subscribetoselena). You can get all the information about my books–sales, new releases, exclusive excerpts– and it’ll always be only books, only 1-2x per month, and straight to your inbox. It’s super easy!

It’s tough to be a real person, but also keep from disappointing those who might have certain expectations of you. I work at it, and I’m sure sometimes I do better than others, but please know that I am trying, and I value you as a reader, and a human being. I want to give you options for how to communicate with me. Please feel free to email me anytime if you have something to tell me: author@selenalaurence.com.

Much love!

3 thoughts on “Who’s That Girl?

  1. Selena, you’ve summed this up perfectly. I’m in a similar position and have come to similar conclusions. My closed FB group? It’ll be all puppies, heroes and chat. But if you’re on my regular FB page, then you are going to get “all of me”. Because I can’t keep quiet in the face of injustice. Being real is far more important to me than being popular.

    1. It’s a tough thing to navigate, but I think it’s hard to spend as much time online as you have to when you’re an author and pretend to be someone you’re not. I know you have a lot of really devoted readers, I’m sure they love you just the way you are! 🙂

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